Thursday, December 13, 2012

Some 14 Things You Probably Never Thought About Marriage

Steven & Tiwonge, persecuted in Malawi same-sex marriage
It feels terribly sad when people you expect to have knowledge shows an arbitrary sense of ignorance all because they want to manipulate or deny others of what is general rights. It is even sadder because if these people are truly ignorant and deserve pity, then they could be accommodated towards change. But no, the sadness stems from the fact that such people are blatantly lying and thus, closing any door to changing and improving towards the right knowledge of the truth.

In the current debate on opening up marriage for all in the UK, - and across the world - many people in the name of religion have argued that marriage cannot be redefined. They continuously state that marriage is defined as a union of one man and one woman. But this is an untruth and it's a slap in the face of history and of many communities, races, sects, religions and their diversity of marriages across the world.

Below are some facts about marriage these people are probably ignorant about;
1. Marriage pre-dates religions and States; thus

2. Marriage is neither owned by the Church nor by the State [or any religion for that matter].

3. Marriage is not ever the union of one man and one woman. The number aspect of [how many people that can be involved in a marriage has always been designed by different societies, religions, cultures and communities as it suits them over the age. And this has rarely been constant. So no one's is more right than another's.

4. The number aspect [of who can be in a marriage] is a sub-nature of marriage and thus is flexible and links to sects who adds that to their style. In some cultures, any man can marry any number of women at any one time or over many many years. The same applies to womean in some other different cultures.MAny of these marriages were successful, happy and fruitful.

5. Marriage has existed in many forms including between same-sex or opposite sex couples in different societies for as far back as time can tell; i.e. in the Igbo tribe of Nigeria a woman could marry another woman. Other forms of marriages has also happened including marriage to [invisible] gods or beings and humans.

6. The purest and strongest, if not intimate love described in the Bible were between people of the same-sex; i.e. Ruth and Naomi, David and Jonathan, even Jesus and John (his disciple).

7. Different religions have different forms of marriage including the numbers aspects (see points 3 - 5 above).

8. In some societies; i.e. in India, women pay the dowry to marry men while the opposite happens in in some cultures; i.e. Nigeria and in Britain of old while currently, dowries are no more part of marriage.

9. Marriage in many cases and mostly in the past in some cultures including in England, made a woman a property of the man. That has changed widely to a large extent thereby redefining marriage. Yet in some cultures in the past, the woman can be the de-facto head of the family.

10. Marriage was not always the celebration of love between two or more people; ask many people who were given out for different reasons and many of such who made the marriage (union) work well regardless.

11. Marriage was used as a seal of friendship between kingdoms, dynasties, families, etc.

12. And in some cases, marriage was used as a sign of power by the conqueror over an enemy.

13. Marriage can be for company, multiplication as well as for servitude, enslavement or fun.

14. Female monarchs across different cultures married and take in their husbands thereby retaining and maintaining their [female] lineage thereby making the [woman] the 'head' of the house instead of the husband.

Based on the above, it would be right to say that the definition of marriage has never been constant. A more clear definition would be that marriage is the union of grown up adults to build intimate and cordial relationship of commitment to one another as a family. And note that family doesnt mean there must be children produced or 'reared'.

Marriage is therefore like an [food] ingredient which you can use to make your own food the way you like it; for instance using tomato for salad or frying it up to make a stew or slicing it up to put in a sandwich. What matters is that you made 'your own food' from the tomatoes and not spill it into someone else's eyes. The crux of the matter therefore is that you ate tomatoes, not how you achieved that.

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